8 Excitingly Obvious Signs It’s a Good Relationship …

What is a good relationship? I suppose it depends on what you’re looking for, but if you want a long-lasting, loving, and overall toe-tingling, keep reading! Here are 8 excitingly obvious signs it’s a good relationship.

1. You’re both respectful

One of the easiest ways to tell what is a good relationship from what is not is respect. If you respect him, and he respects you, feel free to move forward. But if he’s disrespectful, or if you often feel less-than-respectful of him, it’s not a good, healthy relationship, and it won’t be later, either.

2. You’re excited to see each other

When you’re in a good relationship, you both can’t wait to see each other… the time you spend apart is fine, but you really look forward to your time together.

3. He’s uplifting, not abusive — and so are you!

When you’re in a good relationship, you’ll want to back your guy, highlight his strengths and fill in the gaps he might leave. He’ll do the same for you. What is a good relationship? One in which you build each other up, rather than tearing each other down.

4. There’s real chemistry

I know this is going to sound shallow, but one of what is a good relationship is a spark, some chemistry. I’m certainly not saying that sex is the most important thing, but let’s face it — it is important. If there’s no spark, then there’s a chance he’s more of a friend, and less of a boyfriend or potential husband.

5. You’re honest with each other

A good relationship cannot be built on lies, so unless you’re honest with him, and he’s honest with you, it’s not a good relationship. This includes big lies as well as smaller dishonesties… and if there’s anything you’re not sharing with him, now’s the time to start.

6. Neither of you have drama

It’s almost impossible to have a good relationship if one or both of you are bringing drama into the relationship, or if you have a load of it outside of the relationship. Before you can think about a good relationship, your own life has to be straightened out. It’s true!

7. You add to each other’s happiness, not create it

Let me say that again, in another way: if you’re not happy with your life, adding a man, no matter how wonderful he is, won’t help. You have to be happy in your life, and he has to be happy in his, or you won’t be able to help each other be happy.

8. You’re enjoying the moment, but also thinking of the future

You absolutely do not have to think about the future, but if you find yourself thinking about your relationship down the road, that’s a very good sign. It’s yet another why to tell a good relationship from a bad or short-term one.
So again, what is a good relationship? Everything on this list, and then whatever else matters to you! I really like books, so it wouldn’t be a good relationship unless the guy is well-read. Which of these is an obvious sign you’re in a good relationship? Do tell!

How To Resolve Conflicts In A Relationship

Nurturing a relationship is vital if you want to stay together. Bitterness, irritation and constant stress between two people not only affects their personal mindset but also the people around. Learn to resolve fights and arguments by saying “Sorry.” But many find it hard to say this. It is important to understand that if you are wrong, admitting your mistake is the right thing to do. An argument doesn’t need a winner or a loser.
When in an argument, avoid bringing up the past as it will add more hostility. It is best to remain calm and above all forgive and forget. If you have to disagree then do it devotedly. There will be many occasions when you and your partner will not see things eye to eye. Learn to accept people as they are and adjust whole-heartedly.
Learn to be persistent in showing that both of you like each other and want to better your relationship at every stage of your life. This will create harmony and balance in your lives for years together.

Trust me, I'm an Engineer

only heaven knows..

heaven knows....

Enhale-Exhale**

Relax... I should be. I know, a lot of blogger would read this post. Yes, this might be confidential but this  be my way to express my feelings that should get out from its shell. 

I'm having a baby with no father. But I know I can handle this, I am guided by God's grace and power and I knew it. Though it hurts so much for 1 year and 4 months of our relationship he left me hanging. He gave up on me with a baby :( So sad to think about it, I've been crying for weeks and now it went to a month. He already had another woman in his life and he choose her. I was the one who broke up with him and when we knew about this baby, i reckoned for a reconciliation of our relationship just for the baby but he declined. I begged for weeks, I cried for weeks but in the end he left me totally. It really hurts so much. Until now, I am not blaming this angel for the agony I am going through because he/she's an angel. I'll accept the fact that I am going to be a mother without a partner.

Sunday, August 14 2011. I shared my problem to his eldest sister that resides in Manila. It is good to hear that his family is on my side, they'll support me as the bearer of their niece/nephew,grandson/grand daughter. It really make my heart melt. When his brother texted me saying that I should break up with his elder brother because he's just a piece of shit, lazy man and irresponsible brother. Well, it's damn true. But when I think about him, really hurts so much that he chooses the girl that he knew for only a month while we've been through a year. And he even wanted this baby aborted, and until now he's begging for an abortion but i resisted. I don't want to be burdened for the  rest of my life for killing my first child. NO. I don't want to kill my own blood. I can live without his father. I can live without his care. I can live with my family,true friends and my baby.

Thank you for your genes, HONEY.

God bless you SINNER.

Letter from Satan (repost)

DARK LETTER

PAY ATTENTION TO THE P.S. at the end.

Letter from the Devil

This can really make you think. It actually made me really mad while I was reading it, but it made me realize some things.

Plus, I had to send it because of the P.S.

This is deep... and I wasn't going to forward or share it, but that last line... you'll see.

A LETTER TO YOU FROM SATAN

I saw you yesterday as you began your daily chores.

You awoke without kneeling to pray. As a matter of fact, you didn't even bless your meals, or pray before going to bed last night.

You are so unthankful, I like that about you.

I cannot tell you how glad I am that you have not changed your way of living, Fool, you are mine.

Remember, you and I have been going steady for years, and I still don't love you yet.

As a matter of fact, I hate you, because I hate God.

He kicked me out of heaven, and I'm going to use you as long as possible to pay him back.

You see, Fool, GOD LOVES YOU and HE has great plans in store for you.

But you have yielded your life to me, and I'm going to make your life a living hell.

That way, we'll be together twice. This will really hurt God.

Thanks to you, I'm really showing Him who's boss in your life with all of the good times we've had.

We have been...

watching dirty movies, cursing people out, loving worldly things, having bad influences, stealing, lying, being hypocritical, fornicating, overeating, telling dirty jokes, gossiping, being judgmental, back stabbing people, disrespecting adults, and those in leadership positions, no respect for the Church, bad attitudes.

SURELY you don't want to give all this up.

Come on, Fool, let's burn together forever. I've got some hot plans for us. This is just a letter of appreciation from me to you.

I'd like to say 'THANKS' for letting me use you for most of your foolish life.

You are so gullible, I laugh at you. When you are tempted to sin, you give in.

HA HA HA, you make me sick.

Sin is beginning to take its toll on your life. You look 20 years older, and now, I need new blood.

So go ahead and teach some children how to sin.

All you have to do is smoke, get drunk or drink while under-aged, cheat, gamble, gossip, fornicate, and live being as selfish as possible.

Do all of this in the presence of children and they will do it too. Kids are like that.

Well, Fool, I have to let you go for now. I'll be back in a couple of seconds to tempt you again. If you were smart, you would run somewhere, confess your sins, and live for God with what little bit of life that you have left.

It's not my nature to warn anyone, but to be your age and still sinning, it's becoming a bit ridiculous. Don't get me wrong, I still hate you.

IT'S JUST THAT YOU'D MAKE A BETTER FOOL FOR CHRIST.

P.S. If you love me, you won't share this

Do you have any scars on your body? If so, how'd you get them?

yas. it was from my appendectomy

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What would your perfect day look like?

glamorous

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When was the last time you gave flowers?

no one

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The year is halfway over today. What’s the best thing that’s happened to you so far in 2011?

hmm. i cant tell

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Ginagalit mo talaga ako !

My boyfriend blocked all my 4 facebook accounts in his 2nd account. Oh hell. Any secret?

Updates.

I became so lazy on this blog. Just today I planned to start writing here again. It might help me to relieve the pain that I feel. Certainly, I can still feel pain since my heart is broken into pieces. I thought my love story is like a fairytale like those children stories that begins with a "Once upon a time" but it wasn't, this is reality and I forgot about it.


16th day of May, I went out with my boyfriend(Ex boyfriend,currently) to have a dinner. He let me keep his Sim card because he don't have any purse. We enjoyed the night a lot, we ate at Tita D'z, we went to the newly opened Mall (Abreeza Ayala Mall) we had so much fun, we are filled with smiles and laughter but I didn't knew about sadness. We went home we both didn't remember that he left something in me. I just remember it when I reached home.

Sim card, where he have all of his contacts they might be his friends, family, relatives or what-I don't have any idea! So i just started being so curious I used it and replied to all persons who have tested him but I pretended that I am Lance, they don't have any idea that it was me.. But here's a girl who's so sweet on texting, so she is my center of interest among them all and we came to the point he called me "MOK" so I therefore conclude that they are calling each other as "MOK" so I called him "Mok" also. Time by time I keep on asking questions, questions that are so queer. It was late at night so decided to sleep and I just nod on her to sleep.

Early in the morning I read her reply,

"MOK, NAA GUD KO'Y UYAB LAIN"

("Mok,I have another boyfriend"

I am very shocked to what I have read.. I kept on texting her in that early morning, I didn't ate my breakfast. It came to the point that she asked me.

"KINSA KA?I KNOW YOU ARE NOT LANCE FOR SURE"

(who are you?I know you are not Lance for sure")

ME: "AKO NI MOK OY!"
(This is me Mok!)

"REALLY?"

ME: "Yes"

"KASI NAG TEXT SI LANCE SA AKIN KAGABI NA GINAMIT NG BAYAW NIYA ANG KANYANG SUN SIM SO THEREFORE DILI KA SI LANCE, KINSA KA?"

 (Because  lance texted me lastnight that his brother-in-law used his Sun Sim, therefore you are not Lance, Who are you?"

ME: "Okay. Im Kath"

"KATH? MANGHUD NIYA?"

(Kath?His little sister?")

ME:"yes."

So I pretended to be my boyfriends' Lil sister, though it hurts so bad :'(

ME:"Ate when did you 2 started your relationship?"

"2 MONTHS AGO, MARCH 2"

[OUCH !]

I didn't reply for a while until I decided to tell her the truth...

ME:"Miss,I wont play any game to you anymore, I am not Lance lil sister nor his brother-in-law. I am his 1yr and 2 months girlfriend. Nice meeting you..."

"ARE YOU SURE KATH?"

ME: "Yes. Both sides of the family knew about it, my friends, his friends knows about it. I always go to their house and we are in good terms. I didn't knew that you'll come into our story."

"HE FOOLED ME, HE TOLD ME THAT HE DON'T HAVE ANY GIRLFRIEND, I CAN'T BELIEVE"

I called her so that she'll believe in me...

ME: "Hello?...Hello?"

"Hi. Are you sure to what you have said ?"

ME: "Yes. Everybody knew about it. Didn't he told you about me?"

"No. But he told me that he had a gf in Toril, are you from Toril?"

ME:" Yes. I am, what else?"

"He told me that you 2 broke up because yur parents are so strict."

ME:" Strict? he didn't even faced them, he was invited to have a dinner with them but he refused"

"I have been in there in their house once and I met his lil sister."

ME:"aa. Charmaine. and what did he said about you? did he said that you are his gf?"

"No. he said that I am one of his clanmate."

ME:"Fool. Did you have sex?"

"No."

ME:"That's good. We'll nice talking to you, I shall go and talk to him."

"To clarify, we didn't have sex."

ME:" Okay."

It hurts so much, I was grasping my every breathe and it feels like I'm nearly dying. I gave him everything Love,Lust,Money,Time,Effort,Trust and what else?

 I think he is the luckiest man on earth....And I am the fooled one..

I went to my best friend's house and cried all over again. The man I love, the man that I dreamed to marry, the man that I thought to be my happy ending, the Fairytale that I am dreaming of, I am the princess and he is my prince. Well, fairytale are for lil children and not for me, adult and here in realty. I am not inside the comic book to have it,,, Sad? Really sad.

So I went to their home. I didn't eat my breakfast nor my dinner either. When I arrived, he is still sleeping like a baby, I slap his face without second thought, I punched him, and when I was about going out in his room he attempted to stop me from going but I was able to shove him hardly that he landed into a bamboo chair unto the floor. I feel pity when I was looking at him but I stopped my self from helping him, i forced my self to go and cry outside because I don't want to see him being hurt because of what i did. So I hurriedly wen home with tears on my face with sadness in my heart.

He gave me too many explanations that I can't barely type here and share it with you but his main points in very texts,calls and explanations is that ..

"I am the only woman he love, that girl is just for fun and he didn't even love her and he wants to reconcile with me. Gave him a second chance and to assure that his loyalty will be mine that we'll be forever. And being with me until we grow old is what he wants."

While he was saying that I can't tell if it is true or not. He was crying every call, he sobs in tears and so am I..

I am in vague. I still love him and I don't know what to do, I don't want to get hurt once more but if its true I'll give him a chance. I love him. But now, we aren't back in each others arms, we still need to unwind and think....

I am inspired with Chinese Music.

My name is Kathlene Hester Te in Chinese my name is Ken (sincere, earnest, cordial) Tian (quiet, calm, tranquil, peaceful) Tai. My father ir 1/4 Chinese therefore I am 1/8 Chinese. Though my bloodline is bit far but still some tradition is there and I loved embracing it especially understanding their ways of living and the perspective of their lives. In a way or two, I am fond listening to their tranquil music and their literature also.

Liang Shan Bo Yu Zhu Li Ye (Romeo and Juliet)

曹格 & 卓文宣
Cao Ge & Zhuo Wen Xuan
梁山伯与茱丽叶
Liang Shan Bo Yu Zhu Li Ye

Romeo and Juliet

我的心唱首歌给你听
Wo de xin chang shou ge gei ni ting
Let my heart sing a song just for you

歌词是如此的甜蜜
Ge ci shi ru ci de tian mi
The lyrics are blissful

可是我害羞我没有勇气对你说一句我爱你
Ke shi wo hai xiu wo mei you yong qi dui ni shuo yi ju wo ai ni
But I am too shy to say the words ‘I love you’

为什么你还是不言不语
Wei shen me ni hai shi bu yan bu yu
Why have you still not spoken

难道(是)你不懂我的心
Nan dao (shi) ni bu dong wo de xin
No wonder you don’t understand my heart

不管你用什么方式表明
Bu guan ni yong shen me fang shi biao ming
No matter what method you use to make it clear

我会对你说我愿意
Wo hui dui ni shuo wo yuan yi
I will say to you that I am willing

千言万语里
qian yan wan yu li
all the words that can be said

只有一句话能 表白我的心
Zhi you yi ju hua neng biao bai wo de xin
Only one phrase can really represent what my heart wants to say

千言万语里
qian yan wan yu li
all the words that can be said

只有一句话就 能够让我们相偎相依
Zhi you yi ju hua jiu neng gou rang wo men xiang wei xiang yi
only this phrase is capable of letting us be together

我爱你 你是我的茱丽叶
wo ai ni ni shi wo de zhu li ye
I love you for you are my juliet

我愿意变成你的粱山伯
Wo yuan yi bian cheng ni de liang shan bo
I am willing to change into your ‘liang shan bo’ (‘Chinese’ Romeo)

幸福的每一天浪漫的每一夜
Xing fu de mei yi tian, lang man de mei yi ye
happiness each and every day,  romantic each & every night

把爱 永远 不放开 I Love You
Ba ai yong yuan bu fang kai I love you
Never let love go for I love you

我爱你 你是我的罗密欧
Wo ai ni ni shi wo de luo mi ou
I love you for you are my romeo

我愿意变成你的祝英台
Wo yuan yi bian cheng ni de zhu ying tai
I am willing to change into your ‘zhu ying tai’ (‘Chinese’ Juliet)

幸福的每一天浪漫的每一夜
Xing fu de mei yi tian, lang man de mei yi ye
happiness each and every day,  romantic each & every night

美丽的爱情祝福着 未来
Mei li de ai qing zhu fu zhe wei lai
the beautiful love that we share will bless our future

 

ako ? o sya ? :)

siya

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psp ? or cellphone ?

cellphone

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If I would slap you for no reason , what would you do ?

piss you off

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4.) Can the living ever scared you more than the ones whom passed on?

idk

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Would you rather hang out with a small group of friends or a large group?

in between

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Have you been able to keep your New Years resolutions or have you broken them?

i dont have one

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What's your favorite clothing brand?

Maldita and black sheep

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